Street Harassment- Tell 'Em Why You Mad!

Street Harassment- Tell 'Em Why You Mad!

I came across this post on Clutch Mag that describes a problem that young women, myself included, come across on a daily basis-- STREET HARASSMENT.

I've had many days when I've wished that I were invisible as I moved through my day running errands, pumping gas, etc. It's an unfortunate situation and I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who is disturbed by the leering and unwanted cat calls that, for some reason, guys think is flattering. It is not.

Everyone knows of my desire to move to NY-- at least temporarily. When I think about the amount of walking and objectification that I may have to endure as a result of my extra-pedestrian activities, I must admit, I feel a bit apprehensive. I've been to NY several times and did a great deal of walking without incident but that was only within a short span of time-- a couple of days. I can remember my pre-car days on Marta and the sexual terrorism that was always a lurking possibility at every stop. These days it's hard enough warding off unwanted advances walking from a building to my car. Am I ready to relive the crazy on the subways of NY? I've gotta think about this one...

In the meantime check out this vid. about street harassment... and let me know if you can relate.


Tell 'Em Why You Mad Ep 004 Harassment from Tell Em Why You Mad on Vimeo.

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One of the best things I've done so far...

One of the best things I've done so far...

When I look back on my life I can honestly say that going away to school was one of the best decisions I ever made.  I remember my seventh grade typing class teacher, Mrs Schaffer, always said that her college years were among the best of her life... I have to agree.  

My story... pt.1

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For Colored Girls...

For Colored Girls...

Coming soon: one of my favs... For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf, a monumental, soul gripping choreopoem turned movie from the days of my (not-so-distant) youth : ).  I read this book in college and could not believe that such provocative, raw emotion could exist in such a tiny package.  TGITylerPerry!  He, of course, is masterminding the silver screen adaptation of  this Ntozake Shange classic.  I must admit, when I saw the promo posters, I caught a chill--especially from Ms. Thandie & Ms. Janet's! Check 'em out... I can hardly wait!

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Finding Fulfillment & Freedom

Finding Fulfillment & Freedom

Good morning,

It's 3:30 am and for some reason, I'm still awake.  Several hours ago I 

finished a huge project that took several weeks of long hours hoovering 

over a keyboard and paper shuffling.  It feels odd to not have a deadline 

looming over my head. Coldplay, Parachutes is deeply comforting to me on 

this introspective morning. That along with a dose of Tranquility du Jour 

#191 "Life is a verb" on iTunes to help me channel my inner go-getter.

I recently spoke to a former co-worker that I had not been in contact with 

in months and she told me that I helped to inspire her to pursue her doctoral 
degree full-time when I left teaching to pursue writing. Imagine that. I've 
never really considered myself to be so important as to "inspire" anyone. 
Encouraging, yes. Inspiring... that's kinda major. I can say that Kimberly's 
Tranquility channel helped to propel me to take charge of my happiness 

tremendously when I was a kindergarten teacher sitting @ my desk during nap 

time, longing to live outside of the box.

Like my friend/co-worker said, "All it took was faith." These days are very 
different from my former life as a teacher. I feel free. Happier than I've 

been in a long time. In some ways I've felt somewhat guilty for the everyday 

pleasure that I get from staying up late (usually working) and sleeping, most 

days until my body tells me to awaken. I (along with others) questioned my 

passion & commitment to teaching-- like I was supposed to do that one 

thing for the rest of my life.  Teaching was satisfying in a do-gooder kind 

of way.  Living as an artist, student & entreprenuer is fulfilling in a 

deeply personal way. It's like I'm on the right path to something amazing. 

Teaching, I think, was a small part of my god-given gift. It is something 

that will always naturally be a part of me, whether I work with children or 

in other capacities.

I'm glad my friend, who is also a new wife & mom has also found her way 

towards greater fulfillment. I don't feel so bad about sharing my joy when I 

know that she, one of the BEST teachers that I know is just as elated as I am 

to be free. She tells me that now she has time like she never had before to be 

with her loved ones while pursuing something that is enriching her intellect 

and professional goals. 

We both agree that going to school full-time is no cake walk, 

but the benefits are so sweet. 

          *~Never underestimate the power of passion~*                    

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TGIJ: Thank God It's July!

TGIJ: Thank God It's July!

OMG, I do not ever remember being happier to see a month go by... Thank God it's FINALLY July.  Is it just me or did June seem to be the longest month EVER?!  I mean, it started off great; the social calendar kept a steady pace.  However, for some reason, towards the end I found myself waking up everyday and checking my phone to see if it was over.  I was literally looking for(ward) to July.  I have no idea why...

Something truly amazing must be brewing.  If August nights are hot (and I know they are since that's my bday month) then July must be getting ready to be steamy  (rubbing my hands and licking my chops with a sinister grin ;).  Stay tuned!

Summer never looked so good...

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Breaking up with my television

Breaking up with my television

I'm so sad to have to announce that my television and I are officially breaking up-- Cable TV, anyway. Partly because I refuse to pay for cable and Comcast refuses to give it to me for free. Therefore, I will only watch programs on the internet at my convenience or at a friend's who has cable. No more getting sucked into mindless hours of senseless programming.

The primary reason is that I've come to the realization of exactly how awful TV is for me and my brain. My little noggin can only hold so much information before it starts to purge necessary files; there simply is not enough room for TV junk. Plus, when I compare my level of productivity and clarity of thought process during the school quarter versus when I'm on break, I'm astonished at how much more I accomplish without it.

During school I often do not have time for such frivolity. So, it only makes sense for us to part ways. No more Kardashians on Sundays, no more Bravo Housewives, Good bye BET and your gyrating music spectacles-- I'll have to catch you on YouTube, if at all. Foodnetwork, I'll miss you the most... maybe we can keep in touch on your website... (wiping the corners of my eyes).

I officially rebuke my reality TV addiction... as much as it pains me I have to let you go. My future is calling me to be my own reality star. I'll always think of you!

XOXO

I ♥ reality TV... always

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Faking It

Faking It

I was reflecting on a recent blog post about things that life is too short for and one of the things I thought to put on the list was faking it... you know orgasms. I was thinking back on the sad days of mediocre sex, which I no longer tolerate (btw) and wondering when, if ever, is it okay to fake it?


I've heard that guys have this incessant need to be reassured that they are doing a good job in bed.  The best indicator, it seems, is the female orgasm.  I've been privy to some good sex in my day but I'll admit, not every experience (even the great ones) produced the big 'O'.  I've never really had the desire or the acting capability to fake it so, whenever asked whether or not I came-- even after good sex-- I'm likely to say no if it didn't happen.  I am a firm believer that if you spend all of your time faking like you had an orgasm you're decreasing the likelihood of actually having one.  How can a guy know that he needs to try something else if you're busy oooing and ahhing over nothing.


I wish someone-- some guy-- would tell me the truth, how important is it to the male ego that your girl has an orgasm on an at least semi-, if not regular basis?  Let's not pull the unlucky chick(s) who've never had the pleasure of experiencing "the pleasure" into this conversation because she's an unfortunate exception.  Is it ever wise to fake it and do guys even know the difference?  


Just wondering...

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